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My First Blog - The Beach Dilemma

8/1/2013

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I am blessed enough to live near the beach and I have a dog, Zuri, who loves walking and splashing in the water.  We visit frequently and over the hot holiday period, the dog beach has been frequented by a lot more dogs than usual.  A lot of dogs who may not be regular beach goers.

Why do I make such a presumptuous statement?  Zuri and I kicked back and watched the world go by and here's what we observed.

A little corgi type dog accompanied his guardians on the shoreline.  He didn't make any overtures towards entering the ocean, so one guy picked him up and waded into the water with him.  When the corgi was held close to his body, there seemed to be no problem.  However, as the corgi was lowered to the water he started to wriggle and struggle.  Once in the water, his little legs were paddling furiously.  As soon as the guardian released his grip, the little guy turned straight around and headed for shore as fast as he could go, only to be scooped up at the other end and dutifully handed back to the first guardian.  The procedure was repeated with great care and, I can only presume, the kindest of intents.  After quite a few trials of this, the little corgi began to try and avoid the guy waiting at the shoreline.  Finally, when the drop and swim procedure seemed to be over, he trotted away from his guardians and chose to sit far away from the shore line.

A large mastiff type dog was further up, knee knee in water.  His female guardian was in front pulling on his lead towards the deeper water.  His male guardian stood behind, pushing the dog forward from his rump.  The dog stood firm!  I asked if they were on Facebook, hoping to direct them to my Dog Charming Page for information.  I desperately wanted to help.  They looked at me like I was some crazy, friendless person.  Of course they said no.

I think you get the picture.  This was happening to countless dogs on the beach. Maybe this was their first time at the beach.  Maybe they just didn't like going into the water.  So many guardians seemed intent on convincing their dog that this was the thing to do - by pretty much forcing them into the water and hoping their dog started having fun.

For me, as a behaviour consultant, it was like watching someone carrying a terrified child into the water and then dropping them in the deep end, hoping they'll get over their fear and learn to love it.

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Hence my dilemma.  I really wanted to say something.  To help.  But I didn't know what to do.  Unsolicited advice from a know-it-all stranger about your dog (or child) is seldom received well.  So I did what I believe is a powerful form of communication.  Benjamin Franklin said, "Well done is better than well said."  I put my money where my mouth was and took Zuri to the water's edge.

Now Zuri loves wading, but swimming, not so much.  She used to swim, but recently prefers to wade.  I'd like her to swim, but I'd rather convince her that it's fun than force her.  Ultimately, if she chooses not to swim, I'm fine with that.  I had some treats and reinforced her for going deeper and deeper. I played with her and made a game of running in and out of the water.  She went deeper but didn't swim.  We were BOTH having fun.

Walking up the beach on our way home we came across a family;  Mum, Dad and the three kids.  Oh, and the new adoptee, the dog.  She was enjoying interacting with the family and it was obvious they loved her dearly, but as soon as someone grabbed her to take her deeper, she struggled to escape and swam back to shore.  Then she avoided anyone who seemed to be reaching for her collar to pull her deeper into the water.

I waded in and chatted.  The dog came up to me and I casually scratched her butt - which sent her into raptures.  I moved away and she followed me to get that butt scratch.  I moved to deeper water and she swam out to me - to redeem the glory of that butt rub!  Who knew that's all it would take?  The response from the guardians was "Wow, how did you do that?" Awesome, now I can help because I've been asked. The butt scratch technique worked for them too.  So did playing with her and praising her enthusiastically. Brilliant. If only Zuri was this easy.

My dilemma had been solved.  Benjamin was right, well done truly is better than well said.
13 Comments
Jodythekiwi
8/1/2013 12:55:01 pm

Great blog. I think as a dog owner it's a dilemma we see all too often. People do strange things to their pets and you really want to be able to say something. I've always allowed my dog Tanto to experience things in his own time and figure stuff out. It makes for a more confident and curious dog who knows I'll be nearby for backup.

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Sonya
8/1/2013 08:27:31 pm

Thanks Jody. I agree with your comment that allowing dogs to experience things at their own pace is beneficial for creating a confident and curious dog. I particularly love your comment about a dog knowing that you'll be there for backup. That makes for a very special relationship.

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Vikki
8/1/2013 09:12:21 pm

Hi Sonya, great blog and it sounds like it's such a lovely time for you hanging out at the beach - just you and your dog :) one of my favourite things to do is just that! And I hear ya dilemma! That's something I find difficult too because it's not just the beach situation that sort of thing ocurrs, it's anywhere that dogs and people are which I'm sure you experience too...such as being in a public place and seeing someone jerking on their dog's lead to try and gain control.....or someone shouting at their dog when really all that's doing is making the dog scared of the owner. It's times like that where I feel like running over and saying that there are much better ways to handle their dog but as you say, most people probably wouldn't receive that too well. I wish I could be there to splash about with you guys :)

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Sonya
9/1/2013 03:16:50 am

Hi Vikki, Thanks for the kind feedback. We wish you were splashing around with us as well.

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L-A
8/1/2013 10:03:49 pm

Great article, Sonya, and I wish I had your patience with dogs AND humans! ;o)

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Sonya
9/1/2013 03:17:51 am

Thanks L-A. I'm still learning patience - lifetime lesson I think ;-)

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Ali
9/1/2013 12:48:52 am

Hi Sonya, fantastic blog,

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Sonya
9/1/2013 03:21:40 am

Thanks Ali. Thanks for reading it.

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Emma T
9/1/2013 12:58:11 am

I don't normally read blogs but I really identify with your observations Sonya. Thank you.

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Sonya
9/1/2013 03:23:07 am

Since you don't usually read blogs I am extremely honoured that you took the time to read this one. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment as well, Emma.

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3/9/2013 12:58:34 pm

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Dave
31/8/2014 12:12:38 am

Sonya, I came across your blog from http://eileenanddogs.com. I've spent a couple of hours reading all of your blog posts and I'm glad you are blogging your experience. Some very interesting and compelling stories told in a very charming manner. Thank You!

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Sonya Bevan link
31/8/2014 09:33:00 am

Hi Dave, What a great thing to wake up too this morning: three lovely comments on various blogs of mine. Sometimes it can be something so simple as an encouraging word that makes the day start with a smile. So thanks for taking the time to let me know you appreciate my musings on life with Zuri and dogs in general. Just a big thanks. :-)

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    Sonya Bevan is an avid dog lover with a Bachelor of Science degree in physiotherapy. This combination lead to seeking science based information on how to teach dogs and she commenced further study to complete a Diploma of Canine Behaviour Science and Technology. Dog training is both a science and an art. When based on solid principles of behavioural science,  teaching also allows creativity when applied to each unique dog. Most of all, it should be fun for both participants and a way to bond with these special animals we love so much.

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